Miley, Molly and Me

It seems to be an immutable law of human nature that each new generation will dress, speak, make love, and listen to music in the way best calculated to infuriate their elders.

  • James Michener; The Drifters

I’ve just watched the Miley Cyrus VMA 2013 performance. There are two things I need to say:

1 WTH???

2 Miley has a really long tongue!


Our 21st century society is celebrity obsessed. It doesn’t matter if you’re an actor, musician, sports star or famous simply for being famous. We follow their every move and kiss and butt scratch.

There’s been so much criticism about these young Hollywood stars lately, and it got me thinking deep thoughts.

As a society we take these ‘almost perfect’ celebrities and put them on a pedestal. To start off it’s a small pedestal, but as they become more famous and our admiration for them grows, the pedestal becomes higher. Then there’s that one awful moment when they fall off the pedestal. Where they’re photographed with weed, half naked or with the tenth partner of the week. That’s the moment we lambaste them and forever after look for the ‘wrong’ things they do.

Now, I’m not that old that I can’t remember what it was to be a teenager or young adult. One of the things I do remember is exactly what the quote at the beginning of this post says. We rebel. We do things differently. We try to shock. We give the world the middle finger. I remember dressing in a way that infuriated my parents. My dad would look at me and ask “are you going out in that?” My sarcastic answer would always be something along the lines of ‘”well if I’m wearing it, then obviously I’m going out in it.” I listened to music really loudly. I dressed, sometimes, just to piss my parents off. I said things to shock. So, what’s different? In retrospect, I understand that I was trying to find myself and my place in this world. The only difference is that for most of the worlds’ population, we are not photographed and videoed with our every move. Also, we don’t have the money these kids have.

Personally, I would love to have the money to be able to buy a Lamborghini in any colour I want; walk into a store and buy a one-of-a-kind dress or shoes. To do that when you’re nineteen or thereabouts? How awesome.

I don’t understand why there are so many people who expect these kids to be role models to our own kids. How can a child be a role model or idol for another child? That’s like expecting the TV to be our children’s’ babysitter. As a parent, I feel that it’s my responsibility to teach my children that it’s OK to look at these kids and admire their fame, but it’s not OK to idolise them. It’s OK to acknowledge their hard work and ‘overnight’ success, but it’s not OK to emulate their behaviour. Anyway, all we have to do is a bit of trawling on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter or even Facebook to realise that kids all over the world are behaving like this. We’ve all heard the stories of kids sending their latest love interest a nude selfie. Heard the stories of pictures posted on Social Networking sites. Again, the only difference is that when these young celebrities do the same things, it’s followed, photographed and splashed all over the magazines for the world to see and criticise.

The biggest problem is that we like to like ‘Good People’. It’s their apparent dirty fall from the pedestal which disappoints everyone. Think Tiger Woods and Lance Armstrong. We like to believe that the good guy does win, can achieve with hard work and lives a clean, wholesome, All American Dream Life. They’re people after all, and just like everyone on earth, they make mistakes. They also, like the rest of us have to grow up, except publicly.

I watched Miley’s VMA 2013 performance. Risky? Without a doubt. In your face? Definitely. She’s giving the world and her haters the finger. What a fantastic way to get publicity and attention.

So often I sit and have quiet little giggles with myself because the most pious parents are often the wildest ones. Yes, you read me right. I’ve been at parties where the parents are more the worse for wear. They still have to drive home with the kids. Many of the ‘school mommies’ that I know (includes school daddies), have a joint or two at parties, besides all the wine and beers; and excuse everything with age and experience. That’s laughable because on Sunday afternoon after church, they’ll be lambasting the likes of Miley, Justin and Rihanna. As parents, should we not be making the effort to be our children’s’ role models. We should be the ones they look up to and aspire to be like. That’s what I would like for my children. If not me, or The Caveman, then at least somebody we know well.

Let’s leave these famous kids alone, to grow up. Can you imagine Miley, Justin, Taylor, Selena and the bunch sitting around when they’re in their forties? Looking at old videos of themselves; and the magazine pictures. “Gosh guys, we were in our prime and look at us! We looked ridiculous.”

“Yeah, but wouldn’t it be great to have that body and that attitude again!”








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